How to get your spouse onboard

“How do I get my spouse onboard to budget/pay off debt/save more money?”

I hear this question a lot. Typically, one spouse is ready to get cranking and the other doesn’t understand why there is a need for radical change. The spouse that is onboard starts talking about cutting lifestyle, no vacations, and no restaurants. That is a great way to make your spouse run for the hills!

Essentially, when you say those things to your spouse, you make it sound like you are cutting out everything fun for the rest of eternity. Is that something you would willingly sign up for? I didn’t think so. So why are you onboard? You see the goal, the dream. You see what life could be like without payments. I’m with you. I can see it, too. Can your spouse see it? Maybe not.

Don’t just share the how. Share the why. Dream together. Set goals together.

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